After reading an article and doing some self-reflection, I am curious as to whether people think differences in libido are mostly a male/female thing or a personality/individual thing.
Myself, I fall into what could be considered stereotypical for a woman – if I don’t get hugs, kisses and physical affection outside of the bedroom, I’m
not going to be that inspired in it. I assume the “male” stereotype is that you think about sex and are ready to go.
I dislike stereotypes, but this is one I fit into. Another is my astrological sign. It’s hard to imagine everyone born in the same month having the same personality, but I very much fit the description of a Cancer.
What do you think of gender/libido stereotypes? Is there truth to them? It does seem like there needs to be enough truth for a stereotype to come into being..
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I think there is a certain amount of truth to them, but I do NOT fit within the typical stereotype for females… I blame most of it on babies and the hormones that come along with them, and we’ll see if I’ll get it back…
i think stereotypes exist for a reason and often contain some grain of truth- even though it’s never all encompassing.
i do know a lot of women who aren’t interested in sex, and a lot of men who complain about it.
i don’t fit the stereotype at all (i hate cuddling after the act and am usually the first one to get up to do something and/or suggest another activity to move onto) however even in my oversexed state- most of the men i’ve been with have still wanted it even more than i did. i do also know a few women who really like sex a lot and thus don’t really need the affection.
as for horoscopes- even though in my head it seems silly- i totally fit a few horoscopes down to a T so who knows?
well..
I’ve been married for 9 years.
During that time I don’t think we’ve gone more than a week with out some “action”.
After listening to co-workers chat about stuff like this I’ve found that my wife and I are far from normal in this regard.
Most of my co-workers complain that “having the same thing” every couple of weeks gets “old” but I really have no frame of reference in that regard.
I’m of the impression those dudes just do not try enough.
so I’d have to think, based off of my own thoughts, that it’s a individual thing
I don’t think you are alone on the boy/girl stuff… In my experience, most girls need more ‘attention’ to get fired up and ready to go… Like you said, as a guy, I am pretty much ready to go any time… I think you’re even talking about a double stereotype here, married people seem to spend even less time with the ‘hugs and kisses’… That is a big reason people cheat, they are chasing the ‘passion’ that is missing from long term marriage… As cancers, it’s even worse for us!! We are almost completely ruled by passion and it’s hard for others to understand how strong that feeling is and how much we need!
I’m a guy. I’m now 50. Mostly, I think if there’s good communication, there’s more affection. But I like hugs and affection most any time, but i don’t always think it needs a follow up romp. And I haven’t really ever experienced it as a gender difference, nor an astrological thing. I’m Aries.
What I really don’t like is when affection is used as a reward, something ~earned~. Never been married, but always committed to my partner.
Love is magic.
-me.-
I think there is some truth in all stereotypes, that’s where they come from. However, that’s the thing w/ stereotypes — they are a typing mechanism that the human race uses to survive, but in that grouping, almost no one is the actual stereotype itself, and it’s not fair to judge by them exclusively.
There have been anthropological studies that show men and women want very different things, and that that stems back to animal impulses. E.G. Men want to impregnate everything they can to pass along their genes, and women want someone to help raise the child they get as a result of being pregnant.
So, I think that there are physiological and cultural backings to the stereotypes that make them valid, especially in this case. But at the same time, like all stereotypes, there are lots of exceptions to them, and so you can use them for generalities, but not specifics.